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Challenges with houseguests and timelines

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  Each week has had its own challenges. The problem is they seem to be progressing in intensity. MIA has been very good at being stealth and avoiding me in particular. There has been no door dashing, or any other semblance of work. I have not asked lately, but in the past when I have asked about applying for disability or services I was rebuked and put in my place. So, I don't dare ask here. Why? Because there isn't anyone for her to run to. I feel used in a way. The only time she ever wants anything to do with us is when she is mad at her mother or some other calamity has her up in arms. I should have known this time was no different. I am sure that she is not making enough to go out on her own, but she also won't accept guidance, ideas, or advice, and forget asking questions, because then you are just being nosey. I am not sure where to turn at this point. I do not currently have the heart to throw her out on her own, but I am tired of walking on eggshells. On to what is ...

valentine's day and other money-making schemes...

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It is Friday the thirteenth, the day before Valentine's Day 2026. I feel like I actually got some work done today. I managed to sweep the workshop garage out enough to put my van in there. It is supposed to rain over night and although my car could use a good wash, I do not want to have tree trimmings dropping on it. MIA arrived home early I haven't seen her in 3 days. She was actually talkative. Mostly she was concerned that we did not have our cars in the driveway.  I like seeing eggs in the nests  I like seeing cows in the pasture I like having the chickens help me clean Even the cat and Turkey tried to help This is the garage I parked my van in. I put the convertible in the attached garage. It had been in there before I started sorting boxes. Poor car had to sit in the driveway through the snow and rain because I had the floor of the garage totally covered with stuff and things. Things are put away for now. It was weird to drive into a garage to park. It is also weird to n...

Five days of school closure ... I love this!

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 It is the evening of the fourth day of school closures. Surprise! I received a text that there will be no school tomorrow either! I could deal with this on a regular basis if I could get the girls to go to school. Truthfully, I am pretty much fine with them not attending public school and doing free schooling. Or unschooling as others have called it. As long as they have the basics and the desire to learn along the way. I quite often miss my alone time though. That would happen no matter what even if they were in school. Because my time is not my own. If I am here, I am expected to entertain. As long as the girls are here then I am expected to entertain them. As I sit here and type, I have an adult complaining that their toes are freezing. we have terra cotta tile floors over cement. This one has no socks on, no slippers and no desire to remedy that. I am not too concerned. But it is annoying to listen to when there is a solution that can be had easily enough. Also, it is hard to ...

Finally a day without a password problem..

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  Normally I wouldn't celebrate the lack of a password problem, wait, yes, I would. I have been writing down any new passwords that I use because I am a person that can change my password and not be able to remember the change in 10 seconds flat, maybe less. A night or two ago the youngest wanted purchase a movie on her prime video account and for several days we have "discussed" that this could be done on my account and she could access that way. Finally, I gave in and let her make the purchase, well, sort of. Unfortunately, I could not remember my password to my g mail account and even though I was logged in the app was still requiring that I submit my login. This was one of many in the past few months and I am good with being done. Except that I depend on the internet for research, homeschool apps and recipes that I forget to write down when I know full well that I should. Puzzle table The oldest and I started up a puzzle during the snowstorm, and it brought back memor...

Passkeys and other annoying tech...

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  Today is technically day 3 of the "storm". It started Friday and continued into Saturday and early this morning it was still snowing. The sun peeked out for a minute this afternoon and I should have made a second trip to check on the ducks at that time. I took a little nap instead. When I decided to go out not only had the sun disappeared behind some gloomy clouds, but the cows also decided to migrate to my end of the pasture. To carry a can of grain into a bunch of cows is not what I think of as a good idea. Evening 1 of the storm day 2 of the storm evening of day 2 Day 3 and the ducks Hope we don't need the storm shelter my tracks to the pond and a bit of sun lighter clouds to the northeast The ducks did not get any grain today. I plan to get up early and tackle the weather bright and early. The cold is supposed to last another day or two. Not all of the weekend was dreary; I did find my favorite pots and cast iron and kitchen tools to include whisks! Oh, and I found ...

Here kitty, kitty

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  A day or so ago I noticed a new cat wandering the yard. Okay, she wasn't wandering she was actively trying to catch something near the barn. Hansel was standing between the kitten and my approach, providing cover for my advancement for a better look at her. She was quite small and had short stubby legs. She was also a "tortie", meaning she resemble a tortoise in color. These cats are almost exclusively female because of a  chr omosomal type. This why I refer to her as she. Yes, there is a chance that it is a male. Regardless, I sent a picture of her to the youngest in an effort to "cheer" her up. She had her eye on a calico at the shelter that to her dismay got "adopted". Truly, I hoped she did, but this is the local "pound" there is always a chance that she left another way, but I digress. A truly barn cat, I can tolerate. This one is rather cute. Anyway, I told her to bring a can of food for it. She did. The next morning, "Burger...

What I have learned in a month of Sundays

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 While I certainly wish it had been more, I am thankful that it wasn't, as learning is sometimes, done best when it comes with challenges. I have learned in the last two years that the camera tells one story and life tells another. I have also learned that I am weak. Sure, I can do lots of things. But in the relationship, I am a pushover. I have learned that even if you say you won't; when it comes down to it, you will. I thought we were done with boomerang kids... we are not. You cannot tell your kid, even your step kids, when they need a parent to step up or a soft place to land, you can say you won't, but you will. I have learned you can do this even if you do not know why because you do not need to know why. Sometimes you just need to listen. Say nothing and accept that sometimes nothing will be said. I have learned to accept whatever help a person can give and never expect help. In this way I will never be disappointed. It is hard for me to accept physical help or even...