What I have learned in a month of Sundays

 While I certainly wish it had been more, I am thankful that it wasn't, as learning is sometimes, done best when it comes with challenges. I have learned in the last two years that the camera tells one story and life tells another. I have also learned that I am weak. Sure, I can do lots of things. But in the relationship, I am a pushover.

I have learned that even if you say you won't; when it comes down to it, you will. I thought we were done with boomerang kids... we are not. You cannot tell your kid, even your step kids, when they need a parent to step up or a soft place to land, you can say you won't, but you will. I have learned you can do this even if you do not know why because you do not need to know why. Sometimes you just need to listen. Say nothing and accept that sometimes nothing will be said.

I have learned to accept whatever help a person can give and never expect help. In this way I will never be disappointed. It is hard for me to accept physical help or even financial as I feel I can do it myself. And I can do it myself. Okay sometimes I can't, but I won't easily admit that.

When dealing with teens... I have no answers.

If you think you want to move, rent first.

If you think you want to move, explore relentlessly, 

If you don't find the perfect house, don't move.

You do not have to compromise; you can compromise but you do not have to in order to be happy.

If you are young and dumb or just scared, don't say stop, say wait or hold on or I'm scared just not STOP.